Each year brings a new adventure. This year, I decided to recommit myself to my network marketing business. Like many others, I associated negatively with network marketing. I never bothered to see if I was perhaps a contributing factor to past failures.
One of my goals has been to re-connect with people. I have been reaching out to people who are on my contact list to see if they are interested in coffee. This story is about a failed attempt. Here’s what happened:
Me: I appreciate you responding back.
Me (I thought I knew her): I used to manage you social media account when I worked with …
Now, I am trying to remember if this is a person I met back in my PR days, so I look at her FB page.
By now, I realize I definitely got her confused with someone else.
Me: Never mind. I realize you don’t know me so please forget it.
Woman: You are a creeper (something along those lines)
I almost decided to respond, but then I just deleted our text conversation and her contact information. I was one of those people who use to collect business card and fail to follow up. I know now that just because we don’t do business today, does not mean we might not do business later, if at all. It’s not about how many names you have on a list, it’s about the friends you make from your opportunities.
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Have you ever come a cross a person and once you leave you notice the feelings or thoughts that remain after your encounter with them. Like for instance you have people who bring up feeling of peace. you may have people who bring out the excitement of possibilities. We even have those people who are like hurricanes that stir up feeling of anxiety and chaos. I call this, residue.
Like this we encounter, we also leave behind feeling and thoughts on others. It wasn’t until I became more aware of my own conscious thoughts that I realize that we all are leaving a bit of ourselves everywhere we go. We have the power to decide what kind of residue we want to leave others. Granted, they may not always receive it as such.
I learned through meditation that we can set our intentions daily and choose to be either the lighthouse or the storm. What kind of residue due you want to leave? The kind that people enjoy or the kind that people want to wash off.
I honestly think we can learn something new each day. The biggest challenge is usually staying present in the moment to notice. I started getting out and reconnecting with friends. What I often finding myself doing before we met up was worrying about what were going to say. It’s at those moments when you have to tell that little voice inside to “be quiet.” If you are present in the company of others, you can always find something to talk about.
What does it mean to be present? That’s always a great question when people ask me. It’s giving the other person you undivided attention. I always like to define what it is by stating what it is not. Let me give you some examples. Being present is not worrying about what you could be doing with someone else. Being present is not scrolling through your phone when someone is sitting with you. being present is not thinking about what you are going to do once you leave. Being present is saying to the person you are with, that they are important enough to listen and let them be heard.
Once I learned what it meant to be present, my marriage and all of my other relations greatly improved. The power is in your hands. The one thing that is always in your control is yourself.
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I find that the more disciplined I am in certain areas of my life, the more freedom I find in other areas. I schedule my daily calendar with habits I want to maintain. For instance, I try and practice daily meditation, reading and journaling. Just maintaining the calendar is a discipline. For the most part, I know in my head what I have on my calendar out in my head but I have found that having it to refer back to at times helps me to maintain those habits.
When I first started keeping a daily calendar, the purpose was to coordinate my daily activities around schedule appointment times with “clients.” The funny thing is, I didn’t have any clients. I slowly began to realize that the calendar wasn’t for scheduling time for others, it was for scheduling time for myself.
I learned three valuable lessons:
- My calendar is a constant reminder to coordinate the kinds of habits I find important to living a happy and fulfilled life.
- Schedule the kind of activities that will ensure that you DO what is important to you and for you.
- If we don’t schedule time for what we want, we will never accomplish what we want because we think we don’t have time.
In the great words of the late Jim Rohn, “learn to work harder on yourself, than you do on the job.” With a calendar, it’s possible.
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